In my work I do a lot of thinking about relationships and the causes of disharmony within them. Relationships come in many forms, To name but a few, we have relationships between men and women, relationships between members of a family and relationships between friends. When relationships run into trouble and begin to break down it is usually because one or both sides have expectations of the other.The husband wants his wife to be like this and at the same time the wife wants her husband to be like that. The son wants his father to be a certain way and the father wants his daughter to be another way etc. etc. Everybody has their own idea about how things ought to be.
There are always going to be two sides to every story. There will always be several differing ways of getting something done. Which suggests that an acceptance of difference and, the offering of an unconditional love to the relatives and relationships in our lives, could bring about a happier dynamic within them.
“I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I,
and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.
If not, it can’t be helped.”
(Fritz Perls, 1969)
